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We Are All A Survivor Of Something That Matters

we are all a survivor of something

“As I began to love myself. I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living my own truth. Today I know this is authenticity.” -Charlie Chaplin

Regardless of how different your journey has been from mine, there is something special about you.

There is something you have over come and have survived and your testimony is valuable!

This morning I posted on my Facebook page asking for help in writing my bio for my social media accounts.

I understand a lot of you may be confused as to what it is I’m really doing with my niche.. truthfully I’m not 100% sure yet either.

Something just tells me to keep doing what i’m doing

and if i could choose my biggest accomplishment it would be to inspire others to do the same.

I’ve always been passionate about encouraging others to do what sets your soul on fire.

The truth is a lot of us really don’t know what we’re doing anyways, right? So many people i know are out there just wingin’ it, and praying for the best.

One thing for sure is that we can never be sure of the outcome so we really just need to have faith in the process.

I have to remind myself of this often because its easy to get caught up in being misunderstood. But even when we dont understand, we can still be supportive.

In asking about help with writing my bio it really got me to thinking about how others view me.

I’m becoming more comfortable and able to accept these things about myself that others see, yet there is still so much doubt in between the lines.

Coming from someone who has been really preaching a lot about being yourself. I hope you understand just how much I truly struggle so much with self doubt

And how important this topic actually is to me.

I’m really not ashamed to admit anymore that I need reassurance, in a lot of things I do.

Words of affirmation have always been a gift to me.

Whether that be from a stranger, my mother or my husband.

I just need someone to tell me that what I’m doing is ok, and i have been that way since i was a little girl.

I’ve never been able to be a very decisive person because of it, and its been really frustrating at times.

And I’m trying to overcome that little fault (there are many) but it’s all still a process. And im learning how to give myself grace every day. Im learning to hang onto what God says about me and not what other people think or say about me.

No matter what it is you are doing in life or how many supporters you have, there will always be those who will judge you and have nothing but mean things to say to you and behind your back. Let them. God has called us to a higher standard of living.

It’s hard to ignore the hate and actually is easier to pay attention to it rather then the ones who are supporting you.

The devil loves to work on those of us who are vulnerable, seriously not today Satan!

It’s even harder to ignore it though when you realize that those you thought would support you, really don’t when it starts to become “selfish” in their eyes because what your doing no longer is a benefit to them.

I refuse to let those people affect me and the way I live my life anymore.

Praying for your enemies and those who speak badly of you is a necessary part of the process.

Truth is, we have all struggled and we all suffer from something daily.

Even those that are judging and trying to hurt me, they are struggling too.. and who knows.

Maybe worse.

No matter how hard we try to portray a 100% happy and healthy life we all need to first understand that it’s unrealistic and then we need to stop expecting it of ourselves.

To be 100% healthy and happy, we need to accept our faults and be real about who we are and where we come from.

Your life and story has something to offer the world, you are a survivor of something! And your testimony of how you overcame will save someone else!

I have preached it many times before, it’s ok to have bad days.. we all do. But don’t pretend like you don’t. Thats what makes it hard for people watching you when they think you don’t struggle.

Deal with yourself accordingly and be respectful of others.. but don’t expect yourself to not get angry or upset, or to not have opinions when you feel objected to something.

We are wearing our tired souls out!!

Once you start becoming more accepting of your own flaws and discomforts it’s a lot easier to accept people in theirs.

We need to have compassion for ourselves most importantly and for each other because compassion and empathy is what saves a lot of us.

Whether or not our struggles be physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually.. we are all just trying to do our best here.

Lately I have really been trying to hone in on who I truly am and accepting it. I accept now that even though I am not where I ultimately want to be but I know I am headed in that direction and that gives me a lot of peace.

Be ok with who you are!

Your career option

interests

looks

personality

pet peeves

messiness

home and car

hobbies

and even your friends

All of it is what makes you, you.

And there comes a time when dealing with so much self doubt where you need to really accept yourself for all that you are, and all that God created you to be.

Be real with yourself and forget the haters and the ones who don’t support you!

Who knows maybe their hate is really giving you the courage you need and you may not even notice it.

Let them talk, let them make their remarks, let them unfollow you, and unfriend you..

and trust me, I understand how much it hurts specifically when it comes from those who were once in your life before you started the journey in the first place.

Honestly anyone that doesn’t support someone in doing good for themselves , no matter what that may be, is a type of negativity and rejection that no one needs in their life.

Let. IT. GO. Bless and release,

There are people everywhere that will drain you and try to steer you away from doing what your doing, and you really have to keep your eyes focused!

For most of them; they don’t know any better.. but you can’t fix them either.

Life is hard and not just for you, not just for me.. it’s a struggle for all of us.

And it for sure is too dang short to be constantly searching for the approval of others.

We are all survivors of something amd our story of surviving needs to be shared

Let’s be in support of one another.. no matter if we agree with what they are doing or how they do something.

We are all worthy of acceptance from others, every single one of us.

Don’t be afraid to be yourself anymore, go out and give this life your best because we only have so long.

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more and that it turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. Gratitude can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.”

Us human beings have all or are all suffering from something and I think every one of us has a story to be told in order to empower and inspire someone else. The question is will you use it for your good or will you let it continuously haunt you?

What are you a survivor of?

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