Mothers Day Should Be Every Day
Mothers Day is right around the corner, and most of us mamas really look forward to the special time spent with our families.
Of course us moms love being with our family every day but mothers day is just.. different.
We want to feel celebrated.
Even though there’s those of us that get showered with love on these special holidays; there are those who are spending it alone, or who may have never even been celebrated before.
No matter the good that comes along with motherhood that you read, see, feel, or hear about doesn’t deter from the fact that motherhood is extremely complex.
It is important to know though, that it’s a different walk for every one of us.
There are assumptions and expectations that are so deeply ingrained in our society that no one hardly notices them anymore except when we ourselves notice that we no longer fit the description.
Social media, just as reality TV, do an outstanding job at making an unrealistic perspective about what motherhood “should” be like.
All the while, tons of moms are hating themselves for being the tired and impatient mother they are.
No one else would hold out for a strenuous and tiring job that runs 24/7. A job that you to commit to for life. You don’t get paid, you end up letting yourself go along the way and forgetting about yourself in the process.
Not without losing a piece of their sanity.
So give yourself some grace and some credit for being where you are right now.
For raising beautiful children. And for working so hard to give them life.
We all have our days where we don’t do anything, where the chores don’t get done, and no one gets dressed.
Being a parent is hard!
I know that there are those mamas out there that are spending this Mother’s Day alone, and whether or not you are expecting anything from anyone; I want you to know just how love and valued you truly are!
You are basically like Wonder Woman, except even better.
Because you’re constantly looking after other small people, which takes a special kind of patience in itself.
I honestly can’t imagine doing every little thing on my own, without the help I get from my husband and even I still get extremely exhausted and impatient.
I can admit that it really hurts me when people in my house forget that its Mothers Day.
It feels good to be loved on, noticed, and shown that you are valued.
However, sometimes those expectations really bite me in the rear when no one had any idea what it is I was even looking forward to.
Without creating expectations, we can look forward to our life as a mother with little to no disappointments. Expectations always result in disappointment.
So instead, I try to stay focused on the every day things my husband does for me like the kiss he gives me before going to sleep, the help he offers when it’s extremely apparent how stressed I am, the shoulder he lets me cry on for the stupidest little things ( hormones suck!), and even the trips he takes to the grocery store for me when I need something (even filling my tank too).
Focusing on these every day things helps me remain positive about where I am in my life and grounds me in the present moment rather than in the expectations I have created for myself.
When I am thankful for these things I am able to see them as the blessings that they are. Because it could always, always be much worse than it is.
And I think that really pertains to all of us.
What every day things are you thankful for?
A quick mind set change, and all of the sudden the thought of not doing anything “special” on Mother’s Day doesn’t seem so bad.
Mothers Day is honestly just another day.
Life has a way of challenging us in the new situations that we face each new day, week, month, year.
Sometimes those curve balls happen on a day that’s special to us and somehow we still find a way to manage. Because that’s what we do as parents.
That’s the power of being a mama.
The way we choose to handle the difficult situations will define who we are, our emotions and our everyday actions and behaviors. And ultimately they reflect directly onto our children in one way or another.
Some days are hard, all of it can be.. But how we deal with it is vital to our families well being.
We are blessed to be able to be with our kids every single day. But when we choose one day to focus on the good things it really makes a difference.
It’s a joy to even have the opportunity to be a mom.
If you are having a hard time, communicate it with your family.
Talk to your loved ones about what it is you want to do for they day ahead of time. Rather than expecting them to know what you want, tell them.
Create a new tradition or memory with your kids. Try making a dinner or dessert together, or work on a project together.
After all, we wouldn’t be mothers without our babies. So they deserve to celebrate Mothers Day with us too.
Take care of yourself, mama.
Choose something for you to do that you wouldn’t normally do. Something that is geared towards pampering yourself. We deserve it on this day more than any other.
You need to make it a point for yourself that you deserve time to yourself doing something that is going to make you feel good.
Don’t be afraid to ask your husband or a loved one for help so that you can accommodate what you want to do.
You still have every right to make it special and unlike any other day. Celebrate you being a mama and then build another mama up!
Other moms need support and deserve to be celebrated too.
Choose to celebrate other moms in every walk of life by letting them know and/or showing them how amazing of a job they are doing.
It feels good to make others feel good.
But don’t forget to make yourself feel good as well! Because being a mom isn’t easy for any of us.
So let’s celebrate ourselves and one another not just for Mother’s Day, but every other day of the year, too!
Mothers Day is all about what you make of it, not what others make of it for you.
And in all truth and honesty, should we be celebrating moms everyday? I think so! We kinda rock;)
Happy Mother’s Day Mamas!
no expectations = no disappointments is good advice because then the good things that come seem even better. Taking that disappointment out of the equation really makes life better.
I completely agree, friend. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I hope you are well! xo