Learn From Your Mistakes & Move Forward
Along with many others, i am sure we can all agree that finding the balance between being a good person and still taking care of yourself can feel like a huge struggle sometimes.
I personally struggle with wanting to be a good mom and wife so much that I fail to do the things for myself that make me, me.
And i have become more & more aware of those mistakes & that my kids are watching me make poor decisions regarding my well being.
It’s really easy to fall behind on taking care of yourself the busier life gets, but i really hate that they see me like this.
However, being aware of yourself is SO essential & something i think is important that we start teaching our children.
I’ve gotten so caught up in everyone else around me that I’ve not taken the necessary time for self care that i could very well benefit from. In turn, it ends up causing a lot of anxiety, mom guilt, self doubt, and in the bigger picture it causes a large amount of stress.
For a mama like me, anxiety mixed with my busy life– it tends to get really messy at times.
I worry a lot, stress a lot, and i overthink a lot.
I have a lot to work on, and I’m still a work in progress. l always will be. & that’s one of the major lessons I’ve been teaching my children recently.
Even though It has never been my intention for my kids to see me unhappy, it happens. And me wanting to hide those emotions isn’t doing any good at all, for any of us.
Unfortunately life hasn’t been the kindest to us & sometimes i just need a day or two to not talk to anyone or do anything so that i can give my mind time to refocus. That is what works best for me so that’s the way i choose to handle it at this point in my life. Maybe that will change in a year or two,
Just do whats best for you & use the tools you have that have worked in the past to help you, whatever they are.
As my motherhood journey has advanced (3 kids in now); I’ve learned that being open with my kids about the hard stuff has taught them so much more than just compassion.
It’s taught them to think about others more often, & to not take someone else’s bad day so personal.
I want my children to know that it’s OK to have emotions, fears, and that its OK to make mistakes. The society we live in is attracted to positive, funny, and happy things, and we can get highly discouraged from talking about the hard things.
Its important to me that we teach them how to overcome those fears and to deal with those feelings in the best way they know how. & i pray they can influence at least one other kid around them to do the same.
The best way to influence those around you is to lead by example. & when those around you are not reciprocating its important to not let it bring you down and to keep moving forward anyways.
It’s OK to make mistakes because that’s ultimately what makes us who we are.
Choose to not get so caught up in beating yourself up for making them when you do. Instead, learn to embrace who you are and the journey you are on, & focus on the things that will keep you moving in the right direction.
Be aware of the mistakes you make so that you can overcome. Learn from them in an effective way that’s not going to slow you down or hold you back.
That’s really what this journey is all about, to keep moving forward. If we don’t fail, we don’t learn. If we don’t learn, we’ll never change.