Kicking Anxiety To The Curb
There are many different beliefs and systems to take on and approach anxiety and anxious thoughts.
For me, I have had to figure out my own route and find out what works best for me and my life, and most importantly my mind and body.
The reason for starting my blog has been for the sole purpose to help myself. Then hopefully help someone that is in the shoes that I was once in and am still growing in.
You will never be able to truly help someone at the potential that god created and meant for you until you learn how to take care of yourself first. Even when days are bad and anxious thoughts consume me, i will continue to press forward.
My prayer and hope for anyone reading this is that you give yourself an open mind and an open heart, and really push yourself to overcome this wretched condition. Feeling anxious is so much more than a feeling, it can take over your entire life if you let it.
I pray for comfort for you, for the healing hands of god to take over your life, and for you to find freedom in all of this. I know how trying this really is.
I didn’t realize the extent of how bad anxiety could really get.
For some feeling anxious is the epitome of an over reaction, sweats, feeling shaky.
But, for others it can be just straight up fear of anything and everything. Others deal with panic attacks like I have.
Truth is, all forms of anxiety have the potential to be completely debilitating.
Our whole goal should be to not let those anxious feelings get that far. and if it already has we need to find a way to reverse it.
Yes, I do know that it is easier said than done.
But the point is that it can be done.
First and foremost, it’s important to have gratitude for the things you do have. Bad and good, because something I have learned along the way is it could always be much much worse.
It’s also important to know and understand that true happiness is something you find within yourself, not in another person, not in a job, and not even in money.
Take the first step by shutting off the funnel in your brain that is always filled with other people’s ‘made up’ thoughts.
You have to stop worrying about what other people think and whether they like you or not.
Don’t accept opinions of others when it does absolutely no good for you.
Be honest and open with yourself. Stand your ground and protect your reasonable feelings, because they really do matter.
I don’t necessarily think you need a therapist but we all do need some sort of therapy.
Our society the past 20+ years has supported suppression.
Some say it’s easier to deal with issues when you forget about it right? Well, not for everyone.
Take care of yourself. Physically, mentally and spiritually. Don’t be afraid to be alone.
Start by getting comfortable being uncomfortable. What I mean by that is to ask for help.
Don’t be afraid to talk about your problems with someone you trust.
God intends for us to hear what we are meant to hear when we hear it. Allow yourself the opportunity to be inspired.
Everything in his timing is perfect. I didn’t believe that before, but the older I get. I realize how true this really is.
Eat a balanced diet and take a multivitamin—most important one for me has been Magnesium and Iron!
I say balance because it really is one. You have to listen to your body and what your craving.
Usually there’s a reason why you crave certain things, which can teach you a lot about your body.
I learned from the all naturalist doctor I was seeing, that even some of the healthiest foods out there can be toxic to you depending on your body. It was crazy to learn how they detect certain things in your body with bio-feedback!
We are all unique inside AND out. That’s important to understand as well. No one is the same.
I think if we understood that and quit holding such expectations on other people we wouldn’t hurt each other so much.
Limit caffeine as much as you can. I stick with my one cup of coffee a day. If I drink more than that, it really messes with the intensity of my anxiousness.
Alcohol can even have these same effects on some people. But, only you know what’s best for you.
Becoming a positive person isn’t an easy thing. I mean, for some people it may be. For others, being positive is something you have to work for.
It’s hard to achieve in this crazy world full of negativity we all live in. Fight for positivity in your life.
Stay distant from those who are naysayers in your life. They will only bring you down and encourage the wrong things in your life.
This process can take awhile.
Remember to take it one step at a time and one day at a time. Time heals everything.
Always be your own advocate, in everything. Don’t be afraid to stand your ground and to do what you feel is right.
Speak for yourself, and don’t be afraid of what others may say.
Daily reminders- One thing that has really helped me with positivity is to strategically place notes of positivity and encouraging bible verses through out my house. Obtain that hope.
Don’t make excuses for yourself ever. So much easier said than done, I know.
Once you learn how to turn sudden road blocks into a challenging obstacle you are on the right track.
Do things with a grateful heart and not a heart of resentment.
Be the person that inspires others, be more like the friend that you search for a friendship with.
Find a good support system. This is HUGE.
Whether that be family, a friend, or an animal even. Seriously, whatever and whoever it is that motivates or inspires you.
If you have loved ones who are unaware of what your going through, even though it feels like they don’t care- that’s really not the case-most of the time they truly don’t understand.
Anxiety is one of those experiences you don’t understand until you go through it yourself. Explain to them what it is you are going though and the support you need.
Just find the right people that are actually supporting you and want to help you and want to see you do better.
If you still find yourself feeling alone even when your not, try associating with a different crowd for once. Life shouldn’t constantly be filled with anxious feelings, we all deserve better.
You really do become more like the people that you surround yourself with.
It’s ok to be alone some days, but pick up your phone and call someone if you need to.
Choose your daily battles wisely.
Learn how to say No to something or someone that is not benefiting you.
Start a journal and begin writing. Wherever your thoughts are at, start there.
I never thought that writing would be for me. I never tried to write nor did I want to unless I absolutely had to. I have always loved to jot down notes on notepads, but never in a journal. I was always afraid the wrong person would find it.
Only 2 months into journaling and I am so thankful I started. On top of EMDR, I feel like it has really changed my life and has helped me deal with my anxious habits so much easier.
There’s something about getting your thoughts out on paper that soothes your soul and calms your anxiety.
Don’t be afraid and know that you can always light it on fire after you write it down.
I can’t stress this enough how much meditation has helped me in the midst of crappy days. Free your body from the physical stress it holds. If you don’t know where to start, get yourself a good ol’ pair of headphones and download the app called “Insight Timer”. You will be so glad you did.
Bi-Lateral Stimulation— Watch this video, it really has changed me! Amazing information!
In moments when I feel panic coming along, I use this as one of my main resources to help my self regroup- and it really does help!
Exercise. This sounds so cliche. But, exercise is very vital to our mental health. Getting your blood flow going strongly benefits your mind, body, and soul.
Drink water! Like ALOT of water! Such a key component in dealing with anxious things is taking care of our body the best we can. I bet you may even lose some weight in the process and help your body flush out whatever toxins our muscles are holding in.
They say a good standard is to drink half of our body weight in ounces of water daily.
So, if you weigh 100 pounds you should drink 50 ounces of water: Daily!
Begin doing more for yourself whether it be reading a self help book for 30 minutes a day or taking a bath at the end of the day. Do it for yourself.
Start with 10 minutes a day to yourself.
You have to start somewhere.
One thing you will notice that I mention a few times Is “do not be afraid”. Fear has been the number one culprit in my life of anxiety.
If you are like me, let go of that fear.. you are mistakenly having faith in all the wrong things.
When you smile, you automatically attract happiness and positivity.
Pray for relief of whatever it is that is taking you down.
God always listens, and he is always there to help us when we are anxious. There is power in prayer.
Make the choice. You have to want it bad enough for yourself to make that change, no matter how anxious you may be.
Take what you can or want from this and I really hope it will help you as much as it has helped me to know of some of these things.
Experience: that most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God do you learn.
If you could do one thing for yourself to BE more, and have less anxiety, what would that be? What is stopping you?