Emotional Manipulation: Know the signs so you can stay away from it.

Emotional Manipulation is a topic not many like to discuss.

 

Although it is becoming more relevant in today’s topics in society.

and not for good reasons.

people have been hurt by people who attain these behaviors and live them daily.

 

More and more we are hearing about these horrible stories in the news.

 

there are so many people who are affected and don’t even realize it.

I see it in so many people i know, and i wish i could help.

so its time that we start to talk about them in hopes to help others have a better understanding.
Having lived with one my entire childhood, i feel like my understanding of one was something i was forced to understand

 

that was if i ever wanted any clarity in the matter

in which i did.

 

i never enjoyed feeling like a nobody and i don’t think anyone does.

 

What is an emotional manipulator?

 

Emotional manipulation occurs when a person tries to gain power or control by using sneaky, deceptive tactics to change the thinking, behavior, or perceptions of someone else.

 

What kinds of tactics you ask?

  • Lying
  • Anger/Defensiveness
  • Intimidation
  • Guilt
  • Shame
  • Diversion
  • Seduction
  • Denial

These are just a few of the many behaviors of an emotional manipulator.

 

People with these behaviors are able to detect your weaknesses and use them against you. You may encounter them at work, social settings or within your own family.

 

As the person on the opposing end of these types of relationships, we need to learn what to do with these emotional manipulators.
Its important, and up to us to guard ourselves and to stay away from the things that can harm us.

 

After all, no one cares for us as much as we do.

So how can we do this?

 

By creating boundaries.

 

The first step in creating boundaries for yourself is to first identify who you are.

Not what your favorite color is or what you like to do for fun.

 

No.

 

I’m talking identifying who you are mentally, physically, and spiritually.

 

A good set of boundaries in all three gives you a firm belief in yourself.

 

You set boundaries for yourself because you respect who you are and where you came from and because once you do, others will too.

 

Physical boundaries are something we all need to practice for ourselves and for our kids.

 

These include keeping your hands to yourself and your eyes on your own work, and even giving others privacy when they need it.

 

Sounds pretty elementary doesn’t it?

As we grow older we need to keep it in practice and in check. This is important for us adults to live by too.

Kids are always watching.

 

Emotional boundaries can be more complex to understand and they are also something emotional manipulators don’t even to try to.

 

These boundaries protect your sense of self-esteem and your ability to separate your feelings from others.

When your emotional boundaries are weak, you expose yourself to being greatly affected by other people.

This means you might be giving up your own dreams and wishes in order to please another person.

 

On top of it, you are more than likely not one to own up to your own responsibilities.
Its always someone else’s fault, isn’t it?

(That’s what an emotional manipulator would say)

 

Whats the point of having healthy boundaries?

  1. Self Respect and self esteem
  2. Equal partnerships
  3. Assertiveness. Being able to say no when you need to.
  4. Recognize your needs are different from others
  5. Compassion for others

Now reading this i’m sure its something you want if you don’t have it. Obviously its not something in your life that you can have at the snap of a finger.

 

You have to work on yourself every single day.

Just like all things, setting boundaries for yourself takes time.

its a process.

 

But you can do it. I have faith in you.

Protect yourself but most importantly learn to love yourself. ❤️

 

Love, Courtney

 

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