Being A Mama Is So Hard, But So Worth It
It’s totally worth it, but being a mama is hard.
Actually, lets just be honest here, being a mama is the hardest thing i have ever done.
Motherhood is a choice you make every day to put other peoples needs & wants before your own, even when you are full of anxiety & can’t find any worth in yourself.
It’s the constant needs that everyone has & everything else just builds up from there.
If you would have asked me 10 years ago i was for sure that i wanted to be a mom. What i didn’t realize is what it all entailed to be; but i don’t think anyone does.
It’s easy when your not the one dealing with it all.
The appointments, the financials, the cleaning, requests from teachers and caregivers, hygiene for everyone, cooking meals, and the never ending pile of laundry, etc, etc.. to think that being a mama is easy and something i thought i could do perfectly. Psh.
Truthfully, being a mama is hard just about every single day. But it doesn’t stop us from ever loving our children.
My kids are now 7, 4, and 1 and every single day i feel like there is at least one thing that i am failing at. The truth is that it’s impossible to ever get everything right.
Being a mom is hard because there are always things to be done and never enough time to get them all done.
At the end of the day when i lay my head down at night i deal with the guilt that i am completely messing up at this whole mom thing. Maybe its the anxiety speaking to me, but either way.. the thoughts are there and its hard to deny that. Its hard. But prayer has got me so far.
God has taught me so much about grace through my motherhood journey.
Grace for myself most importantly.
My kids love me; there is no doubt about that. But feeling worthy when they aren’t being so nice to me, to each other, or even someone else makes it a lot harder. As a mom you take on the entire weight of the family.
& in between all of the requests it gets easy to forget who you are.
Being a mama requires so much mental and physical energy to care be on duty 24/7, especially as a new mama. I still struggle to find just a little bit of time for myself.
Motherhood is so dang hard, but man oh man is it worth it.
& man oh man do we all need that reminder. That’s the good news that is worth sharing. We are blessed to have been able to have these babies!!
I remind myself often of how much worse it could be and it has become an important reminder for our entire family when times seem hard. No matter how hard it may seem now, it could always be worse is something i often say.
Time and time again its been proven that life doesn’t just happen for anyone without work, patience, and persistence.
Unless of course you have things handed to you and in that case, it took someone else’s work, patience, and persistence.
It’s easy for us to forget these things when we are in the heavy trenches of motherhood. Sometimes it may seem like because certain things in life are not going how we think they should be; we fail to find the worth in what we are doing.
& in the moments where we don’t see the worth in what we are doing, anxiety rears it’s ugly head.
Its those nights where exhaustion overtakes and there are kids surrounding me in a filthy kitchen. And they are all begging me for a dinner i haven’t even thought about making.
Those are the nights that i end up standing there in a puddle of sorrow. It seems to be easier to let negative thoughts consume us more than we let the positive.
Especially when we let that sort of thinking become our habit.
Sometimes being a mama makes me forget who i am. Yet, sometimes all it takes to pull me back is the little faces of love that are dependent upon me. Their love & dependence on me is where i find instant worth in the work i do day after day.
I can’t give up on them like I’ve been given up on. & it’s my dying wish to make sure they never have to feel the pain I have.
It’s rewarding in many ways and not just one. Not just because you get to be the best meal maker, towel folder, or ow-ie kisser; but because you know that all of the hard work now will be worth it later. At least we hope so anyways.
The things i have been through in life were all a lesson for me and have made me to be the person i am today. & that will be the outline of the story for my kids, too. As long as we continue to remind ourselves that life is happening for us and not to us, our kids will perceive life the same.
Every hardship they see you work through right now will give them tools they need later.
The crappy friends, the mean people we encounter, and the unfortunate situations we find ourselves in, there is worth and value to be found in those situations.
As a mom, i want to try my hardest to be the light in the dark. And to show the positive where there only seems to be negative.
It’s our job to share with our kids the good in the world, and to teach them how being kind really works. However, to not be naive about the real world. & how you always treat people the way you want to be treated.
Life doesn’t always happen the way we want it to, and it gets hard, reaaaaaally hard. & in those really hard moments anxiety, fear, and doubt will creep in.
But as long as we see ourselves as worthy, so will our kids.
See the worth in what you are doing as a mom, and being a mom wont look so hard anymore.
The older my kids are getting the more i realize how important it is to talk with them about feelings; and encourage them to be open about theirs. I encourage you to do the same.
Keep making things better for yourself, mama. Being a mom is hard enough. At times it feels like you have given yourself away, but you haven’t.. you have just gained a new part of yourself you never knew existed.
Every bit of it is and will be worth it. Don’t forget to love yourself in the seasons, too.
You cannot pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself, mama.
Life wouldn’t be the same without you,mama.
Give yourself grace to be the mom you were meant to be & not who others make you feel like you need to be.
Being a mama is worth it because you are worth it!