Keep Moving Forward

To keep moving forward from any negative place in life, we must take the actionable steps to do so.

I feel like not many people talk about how hard it can be to keep moving forward.

It’s easy to talk about how easy it really is to live a happy life, but hoping I’m not just speaking for myself here.. it’s actually a lot harder than it sounds.

Talking about these things has become so therapeutic for me. I know, understand and respect that it’s not that way for everyone.

I hope to encourage you to keep moving forward by sharing what i have learned myself.

1.Stay Faithful

I’m a woman of action and I’m all about making things happen, which is a strength I have always had. My faith is strong but handing things over to god has always been so hard for me. Part of being faithful though, is to let go of fear and trust the path that you are on. Have no regrets, life is too short for that. Stay faithful in the plan and keep moving forward.

2. Stay focused on a bigger goal.

To stay focused, it helps to write down your progress on a regular basis. Look ahead at what is to come and not what you haven’t yet done. Don’t even get me started on comparison trap.. that thing gets me every time. So i get it. But we cant let that be the excuse that is holding us back. Remember, if they can do it you can too!

3. Stay true to yourself

Not accepting that I was never wanted and literally pushing myself into people’s lives who have never cared to be a part of mine has really hurt me. Not only did it destroy my emotions, it made me feel inadequate. Like i constantly had to prove myself to the people who had already made their assumptions about who i was. The fact is that you have to stay true to who you are, and if the people in your life dont agree with it; you cant change it.  You can’t force people to do things they don’t want to do, including caring about you or loving you. Staying true to who you are and knowing what you want is the key to moving forward.

4. Feel all the Feels

I have realized that it’s best and actually the easiest for me to just be me.

Wanting to run away from my problems is something I have been working on not doing. I have embraced so much more positive change when I confront issues right dead where they are instead of constantly hiding myself from them. Learning to accept who i am and my emotions that i feel has been the hardest thing I’ve done. Owning my feelings hasn’t just helped me feel better, it has made me realize why they are there in the first place. The first step to overcoming anything is becoming aware of what it is you are dealing with.

You deserve happiness, always remember that. You also deserve the space to sort out your emotions and to give them validation.

5. Believe in your own worth.

Setting boundaries isn’t a malicious act. Those who are used to walking all over us will assume that we are attacking them once we start believing in ourselves. My hope for you is that you believe in your own worth so much that you see how valuable your place is at someone else’s table.

Unashamed, unafraid, and without  judgement.

Your story has value and who you are is a child of god. You are loved, worthy, and deserving of greater things. Keep moving forward.

6. Take responsibility for your actions

Learn from your failures and leave mistakes and feelings of regret in the past. Part of confronting issues head on means that we must also admit where we were at fault. The hard part about it is that we have to look at ourselves in the mirror and accept the things we don’t necessarily want to accept. But, the best part is that it helps us because we are able to build and learn from them. Some things just cant change and that’s OK too. Accept it and keep moving forward.

The truth always heals and sets us free, eventually.

7. Shift your Mindset

This one greatly plays into keeping your eyes on the big goal. Starting with a few small, but new goals every week and completing them can really set the tone for how you feel about yourself. Everything that you do isn’t just affecting you, its also affecting someone else in a negative or a positive way. Sometimes just thinking about that can shift your mindset in a positive direction.

8. Set up a healthy morning routine

Part of living with intention means setting up new habits and routines for yourself. If getting up early is something you struggle with, try going to bed at an earlier time. Or maybe try shifting how you view mornings that keeps you resenting them. Inhabit the daily routines that you envy in others by doing the things. Drink water, eat something healthy, exercise, and meditation are all apart of the morning routine that i try and keep up with. Finding ways to start your day with intention keeps you moving forward rather than peddling in place.

9. Ask for help. 

I was stuck in a rut of what i thought love was for way too long. Until i sought out therapy and admitted that i needed help, i was unable to move past limited beliefs that had stemmed from childhood.

I question myself and every little thing I did; and I always stressed about things that i couldn’t control.  This left me in a place of confusion and isolation. Over time you begin to feel like you truly are alone and those thoughts will cripple you. Its so essential to reach out to someone that you trust in order to keep moving forward.

The world needs authenticity and community.

We need you and your story.

10. Quit getting in your own way

I found that along with truth you also need answers. Finding these answers hasn’t been easy, but it’s been effective for me. The truth isn’t ever easy to hear but it’s what we need to hear.

The answer I have come to realize and accept is that my life doesn’t need to look perfect. Family doesn’t need to be blood. And you don’t need to be friends with all of the people. After all, it doesn’t really matter what other people think of you. Even if they think you suck.

I realize that i always was my biggest setback and I don’t want to be anymore.

Just realizing that has propelled me into the next step of my journey which has been to help other people.

It feels good to stand firm in every word I say because that’s the woman I have always wanted to be.

I choose to live for me now because living for others continues to break. me. down.

You can still be a good person and say no, too.

“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.”- Martin Luther King Jr.

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  1. I found your blog through the marijuana post on scarymommy….yes!!!

    And this post right here… You are in my head and it just feels so damn refreshing to read your words and know I am not alone. The no real friends, the trying to live my life for me and not falling prey to others expectations of what my life should be like, the often chaotic mess that is my parenting style, and the anxiety and stress and second-guessing myself day after day…..it all gets soooo hard at times and I’m often at my wits end, barely hanging. Reading this has helped me so much today. Thank you!

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    • Courtney Ferguson

      Thank you so much for sharing this with me!!! You are never ever alone, friend! Im so glad I could be of help to you. I am always here for you! Email me anytime! Much love ❤️

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    • Courtney Ferguson

      Thank you SO much for finding me over here!! I really appreciate your love and support! My original comment to you never posted, so I apologize in the delay responding to you. I understand so much of what you’re saying and I hope you know I am here for you! My email is on here, so feel free to reach out anytime! It’s important to know that you aren’t alone, and to have support. I’m so glad my words were able to resonate with you and help you. Thank you for sharing that with me!! I hope you have an awesome week!💕

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